Thursday, March 19, 2009

Wedding Planning Hell

So this is how wedding planning is going so far:

-Can't find venues that fit our budget and our champagne taste: We refuse  A: a wedding without a kick ass dj and plenty of room to dance B: alcohol C: a place to have the ceremony and reception at one place but not in the same room
I'm super irritated because Ben thinks we should be able to swing the whole wedding for the price I think we can swing the reception. He of course it wrong. 

-Can't fit in the fucking dress I want- I've never pretended to be a skinny girl: I wear between a 10-12 in pants which I consider middle of the road- not thin by any means, not obese- I wear between a 14-16 blouse because I have a 36 DD bust- which in wedding dress size means I wear... a FUCKING 20 ...yep a 20 gals and guys....that alone doesn't bother me- I know my boobs are a major factor here and they size gauge....what pisses me off is the dress that I tried on in a 14 (and was clothes pinned to me as it wouldn't close) and LOVED only goes to a 16....and the bitch at the place didn't bother to fucking tell me I got all happy and giddy and thinking about going ahead and buying it because its in my price range and do a little more research once I get home and discover this little fucking gem about the sizing. 

Can I lose weight? Sure. Who's to say I would lose it in my boobs though even if I wanted to. The fact of the matter is- I'm comfortable the size I am- and I don't fucking think I should have to lose weight for gd dress- its so cliche and I am soooooo irritated. 

What else...

- Oh, yeah...Ben has no opinions about anything- what-so-ever, won't pick his last groomsman, or a best man , seems to think that I know all the answers to everything, and the best part? He thinks his mom can do any and everything so that we don't have to pay for it: Wedding Cake? Mommy will make it! Invitations? Mommy can make them! Bikini wax? Mommy can do that too! Ok I'm fudging on the last one- but serious about the others. Hell, maybe she can but I'm of the school of thought that we should throw some money at the issues and be done with it.

I'm so serious- we were talking about the budget yesterday and Ben named off the price and the things he thought we could get for that price to have our dream wedding. At the end of his budget list this is what we didn't have for our wedding:
-wedding dress
-attendants gifts
-parents gifts
-marriage liscence 
-PHOTOGRAPHER (fucking photographer)
-wedding bands
- flowers
-hair and makeup for me


I know that its the oldest known fact in the book that grooms are clueless when it comes to wedding planning but I guess I expected more from him.

Maybe I'm being a bridezilla but I feel like from the very beginning NOTHING has gone well since we got engaged and to make matters worse I feel so alone in the planning process. Ben doesn't know anything and only half listens to me when I talk, my mom continually reminds me that she hasn't been mother of the bride in almost 20 years and doesn't know what to do, I think Ben's parents feel like their over-stepping their boundaries to give in-put, and only two of my bridesmaids live within a half an hour of me and one of them is planning her own wedding that's approaching much faster than mine. I feel like just throwing the towel in.

Everybody keeps telling me I should get exactly what I want...yet no one has told me how in the hell I'm supposed to get it- without the perfect amount of money, the perfect body, and the perfect support system.

In an un-perfect world, in an unperfect economy- how do you consturct your perfect wedding?


Ruggy13 said...

ok first off you aren't bridezilla! You're NORMAL!... This is what my mom did which helped out majorly! She made a binder that organized all of the areas that need to be worked... It seems like you've done that with your list... Sit your boy down and say I've dreamed about this day forever... I need some answers from you because in my dream, your opinion matters... and not that your mom can do everything. There is a book(I don't remember the name) BUT is all about how you can bargain shop for your wedding! It honestly was great! We made our own centerpieces which saved a ton, and donated money to a children's hospital instead of favors... it was more cost efficient and no one walks away with something that will get tossed in the garbage!

Good luck! I hope this helped! Feel free to email me anytime to vent about your wedding stuff!! I know it all to well!

Rachel Ann said...

Girly, I know that I am about 1,000 miles away and I so wish that baton Rouge, and Cincinnati were closer so that I could be there at the drop of a hat. But nevertheless, you can ALWAYS get ahold of me via e-mail, the phone, and blackbery messages.

I haven't been sending you any links to wedding things i was reading because i figured "I'm sure she's got people sending her this stuff out her butt" But from now on, I will TOTALLY do so.

Also, remember, if you need me to do anything to help you out (stuff wedding invites, put together 1,000 tulle bags of jordan almonds, smack Ben Upside the head and tell him to give input, etc.) I will do whatever I can within the laws of Physics to get it done.

I may not physically be nearby, but that's so not going to stop me from being a kick-ass bridesmaid.

PS - When I'm in town, we will go do all sorts of Wedding Planning stuff together.

PPS - I think Brett's planning on proposing to me on my upcoming birthday. And I think my Mom knows, because she's been upping the talk of me getting married at a plantation.

moobs said...

Healthy dieting and exercise could really help us in attaining the perfect body for us.
Sexy body is like a gift from Go that we should have to care of.
It is because if we'll take it for granted, we might be fat and unattractive.

saucyminx410 said...

I got up...out of my 2:31 in the am- when my blackberry woke me up to comment back on what moobs had written..only to discover the seemingly rude, off subject, and slightly off subject comment was added by a spam site letting me know I can get rid of my man boobs. Fantastic. But since I'm up I might as well say:

A: Who said I don't feel like I have the perfect body for me?
B: This comment is assuming that not thin = unattractive, some people feel that way- I do not.
C: This post is about fitting the body I have into the dress I want not about being unhealthy: which I am not, or unattractive- which I also feel I am not
D: Good to know if I ever make a post about weight- my site gets fished and I get comments that direct me to spam --- and momentarily make me feel crappy.

Ms.Angel said...

That sucks, ignore that stupid comment!!

There will be the right dress out there, and you are right losing weight doesnt mean it is coming over the chest, I know that is the last place happening for me! (It's probably the last place we want it to go too.)

I feel for you, I had a very small simple wedding and my mum planned it all pretty much, so I missed out on the stress of it, ask for help when you can, as you need to enjoy the process too. Tell your fiance that he needs to make some decisions, handle a few things, it will make you much happier and stress free, and for mum if she doesn't know what to do, I would just give her a list of things to do, cos you can't do it all!

Anyways good luck, remember one thing at a time and you will get there!

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